Claim Your Power – Be Neutral
Are you willing to be high vibe no matter what?
Or are you willing to let others take you out of high vibe and control how you respond?
While listening to Dave Chappelle, I had a thought. (Hang with me for a moment.)
When others make you mad you’re giving up your power. It’s your choice if you choose to be mad or not. It has nothing to do with the other person. Your feelings about what the other person did or said is totally up to you.
To claim your power, choose to be high vibe (no matter what others are saying or doing) and in the process be neutral. Thus, how you respond can be different and then the results can be different.
Dave Chappelle was talking about a man dressed as a woman. This person was having a health issue in the moment and he went over to see he could help in some way. The person’s friends were offended that Dave said “he” when it was obvious that the person was wearing a dress and was thus a “she.” They completely missed the point that a health emergency trumps a pronoun.
All they accomplished was showing their emotional buttons. Once you show your buttons they can be used against you. (Dave didn’t do this. He was still gracious and kind.)
When I got divorced, I changed my last name to Joy. I was telling the world (and myself) who I chose to be. While I was at it, I also chose to go back to my birth name, Judith. For years, I’d done what others had wanted and been known as Judy. It was time for me to be who I chose to be.
People would invariably call me Judy. I gently (with a smile) reminded them that I was now Judith. I set my vibe (kindness and smiles) and then shared information (the name I’d like to be known as). I didn’t have an emotional button to be pushed. I was neutral. I know who I am.
Recently, I had a massage and the woman called me Judy. In my head, I said, “Judith.” I didn’t feel the need to correct her. It’s her problem that she can’t read the intake form. It has nothing to do with me. (By the way, the massage was very good.)
The same is true of everyone who gets upset because someone else doesn’t use the preferred pronoun. By getting upset, they are giving away their power. They are letting others influence how they feel.
Eliminate Your Buttons with Neutrality
Instead, be neutral. Be happy with you and let others be who they are. When you are neutral, you are okay either way. You don’t have to react. You haven’t given away your power. In fact, you have choice about how to respond.
To be neutral, you need to move the energy. It’s more than thoughts.
Think of a fart. The air is clean and then someone farts. The smell at first is intense. Then it dissipates. This is helped along by waving your hand to move the smell.
The fart is just a sign that “something” is ready to be eliminated and let go of.
The same is true when you have a feeling that “stinks.” It’s just letting you know that you have something (a feeling) that you can let go of and be neutral about.
How to be neutral
To be neutral, move the energy by doing hand balancing.
Hand Balancing
Take a deep breath and exhale. Continue breathing normally.
Hold your hands, palms up with your elbows at your waist as if you are holding a tray.
Put a thought in one hand.
Put a different thought in the other hand.
Feel which is heavier. Yes, one will actually feel heavier.
Pour the energy from one hand into the other. Then reverse. Repeat over and over.
Notice when both hands feel like they are the same and the thoughts “weigh” the same. You are now neutral and balanced. The sign that you are neutral is often accompanied with a sigh, yawn, cough, or some other physical release.
Pay attention to the thoughts that pop up and use these thoughts to guide you with the next ideas to balance.
When you are neutral, you actually claim your power. You aren’t letting others’ words, thoughts, or feelings control how you feel. You get to be the vibe you set for yourself when you claim this power.
