Open to New Possibilities

Judith Joy

It’s all possible, until we get stuck in the problem. This is wrong. The other person did.... I can’t believe that.... Everyone is....

When we are wrapped up in what is wrong, we spiral down into more of the problem, and this stops the manifesting cold in its tracks. Have you ever noticed that once these spirals start, it is very difficult to stop it? Complaining attracts complaining. And as you know, what you focus on is what you get. So, if you focus on the problem, you will get more problems to focus on.

Sometimes all it takes is to dismantle the filter through which you see the problem. Then combine this with tapping into the space of the solution being wonderful. Both of these will smooth the way for you to manifest what you truly desire.

Recently (for the past few years), Shoshi has been open to having her future husband show up. She wrote a journal of letters to him. She reluctantly signed up for various dating apps. She told her friends to start looking for men to introduce her to. And she did a ton of internal work to clear any blockages she had.

And yet, he hasn’t shown up yet. It’s time to look again for any undiscovered filters that may be clouding her manifesting.

Her list includes:

  • Dependable
  • Respectful
  • Intelligent (hopefully math/science since those aren’t her strong points)
  • Grounded
  • Knows who he is and what he wants
  • Wants kids
  • Can be fun/silly with her
  • Loyal
  • Honest
  • Integral
  • Great communicator
  • Down to earth
  • Loves what he does
  • Wealthy or can be
  • Able to be structured (not sure of a better word for this, but she’s not this. LOL)
  • Prefers men older than her (32-45)

We looked for where her energy didn’t align with her desires by asking, “Does this desire make her strong or weak?” Three items had the weak feeling of sinking in the gut. And guess what? They all had the same filter. She hasn’t had experience with some of these desires previously in her life and doesn’t know what it feels like. So, the unconscious filter was “it’s unattainable.” And it’s really hard to manifest if you don’t think it’s possible.

                                                           Open to a New Possibilities

Change your perspective. To dismantle the filter, first recognize that it’s there. Then make the conscious choice to look at things from a different perspective.

For example, look within yourself for a time when you felt the feeling. Go back and forth between the feeling of not having the experience with others and the feeling of how you felt when you felt it within yourself.

For Shoshi, she had a seven-year relationship with someone who didn’t love what he did. He was a great guy in an unfortunate situation. She, however, loves her job. As a result, she knows what that feels like and can balance the energy of not loving his job with the feeling of her loving her job. The end result will be that she feels neutral and can allow the best to step forward.

Tap into the space of things being wonderful. Ask yourself, “What is it that you truly desire by having what you think you want?”

For Shoshi, what would happen if she dropped the husband fulfilling the desire? What is she truly looking for (besides a father for her future children)? A sense of ease and the feeling of “I can breathe, along with laughter.” Now that she knows what she is looking for, does everything else have to be perfect? No.

Even though, Shoshi has intense energy, she has experienced ease and fun. Her job is to focus on that feeling. All the other items become details or the how she gets to the ease. By focusing on the ease (with fun rolled in), the Universe can bring in someone even better than she ever imagined. In fact, many options open up that she never would have looked at before.

If you can let go of the filter and focus on the desired outcome being wonderful, then things can manifest with more ease. You don’t have to focus on the problem. Instead place your attention on the true desire and tap into the space of an infinite number of choices with the energy you are looking for.

And as for Shoshi, if you know of a man who would be great for her, please pass along his name.  I'm more than willing to make the introduction.  Just's all possible.

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