Love is at the center of the holiday season. And yet, many people are feeling anything but love. Irritation, stress, judgment and so on seem to run rampant. Did you know it is possible to turn this around? It is possible to feel the love…even in the moments that you don’t feel it.
What is love defined as?
Dictionary.com says love is a “profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.” It continues with two other definitions that are very similar. Do you notice what is missing?
This definition (and a lot of people) sees love as something outwardly focused. For example, I love x, y, or z. It’s something outside of themselves.
What about loving yourself?
Raising your vibration is about loving you and feeling the sensation of love within you. It’s the inside feelings that make a difference. Inward and outward focused love both have the sensations. However, to have only the outward focus implies that you need the thing on the outside of you in order to feel the thing on the inside of you.
This is backwards. It all begins with loving you no matter what is happening on the outside of you. You love you (and feel it) if you have a significant other OR if you don’t. You love you (and feel it) if you got the best present ever OR if you didn’t. You love you (and feel it) if you like the people you are with OR if they are irritating. No matter what happens, you love you.
What does love feel like?
Everyone will have a slightly different sensation such as the feeling of butterflies, snuggles, warmth, bubbles, cozy blanket or something else. These are visuals that help you identify the feeling and remember it because they remind you of sometime when you felt love. It’s the outside thing that created the feeling within you. Or what if it’s not?
What if the feeling of loving yourself is so foreign that the only way you can define it is to attach an outside meaning to it? This is a great start. But there is more.
At the root of the sensation of love are the feelings of lightness and expansion. Think of love as bubbles within you that are continuously expanding and popping. This feeling can be inside of you no matter what.
When can love be used?
Love can be used at any time. It’s about feeling the sensation of love within you. You can use it while:
- cooking (and your food will taste better)
- communicating with others (and the conversation will go smoother)
- setting the tone for your day (and you will feel better)
- driving (and your drive will be smoother)
- looking at yourself in the mirror (and becoming aware of your greatness)
- blessing everything around you (and you feel better and better the more you do this)
- and so on. . .
What does it take to build the feeling of love?
It’s a simple five step process that can be used at any time. So, what is the process?
- Close your mouth.
- Put a smile on your face.
- Think, “I love you.”
- Notice the feeling.
It’s that simple. The more you think “I love you,” the more you will feel it. The more you feel it, the better you will feel. The better you feel, the higher your vibration will go. The higher your vibration goes, the more ease you will bring into your experiences. And it all begins with feeling the love within you.
Be sure to practice this and build the love within you each day. Then when you have a stressful situation (such as someone is rude to you), you can easily slip into the “I love you” technique and feel the love because it is familiar to you. The stress resolves itself. At the very least, you will feel good even if the stress is swirling around you.
It’s all about how you feel. Better feelings create better results.