“I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you.” Try saying this to yourself (silently) the next time someone is arguing with you. While it doesn’t seem like it would work, it does. So, what do I mean by work? When someone is arguing, they want to get their message across. They aren’t interested in what you have to say…at least this is what my experience has been. So, the obvious is that no matter what you say, it won’t matter. However, if you send love, the energy changes. Say, “I love you” over and over for the entire conversation.
If you back up the words with loving feelings, the process works even better. This is because the universe will bring you what you think about, and the feelings intensify your thoughts. So, by sending loving feelings, the person’s vibration is no longer congruent with yours. Lo and behold, they will stop arguing and very often decide to exit the conversation, either by changing the subject or leaving. In the end, you have not participated in the argument and end up feeling loving, which is much preferable to being tense from arguing…at least from my view point. Then, later when the mood is calmer, both of you can revisit the topic if it still needs to be discussed.
The first time I tried this, Shoshi called and started screaming when I picked up the phone. I tried reasoning with her, but luckily, I had a friend here to remind me to say, “I love you.” So, as I listened (and shut up), I was saying, “I love you” over and over. After a very short time, she said, “Just forget it” and then hung up. My friend and I were laughing at how well this method had worked. Happiness sure is preferable to being upset. Incidentally, Shoshi solved the problem on her own and the number of screaming phone calls have decreased drastically.
“I love you” is a magic phrase. Not only does it work when someone is arguing, but it also is a great way to get rid of unwanted feelings and pains. That is right. When you apply it to a feeling or ailment within your own body, it will also leave. So, the next time you have a pain, you have a choice. You can tell it you love it until the vibration isn’t a match to the pain and thus the pain leaves, or you can add to the negative vibration and help it stick around longer. The choice is yours.
When I had a migraine headache, I tried loving it. It was very hard to get my head around loving something that was hurting me, but I kept saying it. At first, they were just words, but feeling did come into it after awhile. It took a long time, but by also giving the headache permission to leave, I was able to downgrade the headache, which means the pain was much less. Sometimes, the headaches are too intense to do this, so it helps to have a friend to ask you (over and over) “Could you give the headache love? Could you let it go?” By asking the questions, you are giving your body the choice. If you answer yes, then the pain will subside gradually…and then you don’t need drugs.
I did this for two hours once while sitting in the waiting room of the hospital. My headache downgraded from flowing tears to “let’s get out of here.” I know that if I kept up with it, I would have gotten rid of the whole thing without using any drugs. In this case, I decided to take the medicine the doctor gave me. But, I have used the “I love you” method for other headaches and it has worked.
But if saying “I love you” allows the pain or argument to leave, what about when we say it to someone who we love? Interestingly, the same thing happens. Imagine saying, “I love you” to a date who doesn’t love you back. This person will feel uncomfortable and find a way to leave. Or if the person loves you, then your vibrations match and the words draw you closer. After all, wouldn’t you rather be with someone who feels the same way you do?
In the end, saying “I love you” will help you feel better within yourself.